My kid’s school hosts a book club for the parents every year. This year, the book was “How Children Succeed” by Paul Tough. It’s a NY Times Bestseller which is interesting because it’s pretty academic.
I’m not going to recommend the book here because I didn’t love it. I will, however, highly recommend a documentary I found by reading it called, “Brooklyn Castle” about inner city kids competing in chess tournaments. It’s inspirational if you are trying to motivate your kids to play chess, but even more importantly, there are subtle topics you could discuss as a family such as how the kids work hard and enjoy contributing to the family, want to give something back, overcome challenges to follow their dreams, etc.
“The Price of Privilege” by Madeline Levine was recommended by a parent during one of our book club discussions and I happened to find it at the library. It’s a good read with interesting stories from the author’s private psychology practice. It’s probably worth the read just for the last chapter which talks about how maternal depression affects kids in terms of their own depression, drug and alcohol use, escapism through media, shutting down, etc. I hadn’t thought about that aspect before, but our kids, even seemingly unaffected teens, are more in tune with us than we realize.
Hopefully, mothers, will be inspired to increase their friendships, support networks, and self care not only for their own sake, but for the good of the whole family. I loved her analogy on page 205: If you’ve been dying of thirst, you can’t share your first glass of water. But if you’ve had plenty to drink, not only can you share, you can even go without for a bit.