I’ve just finished Anita Moorjani’s, Dying To Be Me. It’s an easy and fast read, yet inspirational. I even assigned it to my 10 year daughter as a consequence for something. She was only a third of the way through when she told me it wasn’t really a consequence because she liked the book!
I particularly appreciated Anita’s prism analogy on page 163 in the Q&A section. She says that unconditional love is like a prism refracting pure white light or love into the different colors of the rainbow. You’d never judge any of the colors as being bad or good, they just are what they are. The same is true for our emotions. Trying to deny an emotion that we judge as negative is like trying to extract a color from a rainbow. Without all the colors, all the emotions, the rainbow can’t exist.
She says, ” We don’t have to act on every emotion; we just have to accept that they’re part of who we are. Denying them would be like prohibiting a certain color from being refracted through the prism. Only by embracing the full spectrum of our feelings without judgement, can we get in touch with the pure essence of unconditional love that resides at our core.”
This reminds me that we have to love/accept all of ourselves–the good, bad, and the ugly–and only then can love grow in abundance.
She also mentions at some point that we can’t give away what we don’t have so if you say to your children or spouse or whomever, “I love you”, but you don’t love yourself, then it rings hollow and false–because it is!